nkrummy

My advice is to be careful with this one! I mean it's hard to give any real advice because I don't know the person or the situation.. but it just reminds me of a few different situations involving this type of decision.

For one thing- you don't want to be abused and become a doormat, but on the other hand- what have you done for this person so far? Its not always the easiest thing for someone to ask for help, and responding in a way that you think will "teach them a lesson" isn't exactly the way good family and friends treat one another. Are you willing to inconvenience yourself to help this person without using it as an opportunity to be able to pass judgement on them and give unsolicited advice?

On the other hand, are they a total trainwreck that is hurting themselves and others? Maybe you can make a really positive change in their lives with a little tough love....

It really depends on the situation but I would think long and hard about what this person means to you, what you want for them, and how much it really is about them... and also about what sort of relationship you hope to be able to maintain with them.

Good luck!