Marriage - Page 3

danarch · 10-04-2007, 01:03 AM

people need closure. this is the purpose you describe. in the end, if you are truly devoted to another, marrige is just a tradition.

digitalMedia · 10-04-2007, 06:15 AM

I've been with my wife for 19 years (and we waited 10 years before having kids

).

Before I met my wife, the longest relationship I ever had was 3 months. Back then, I used to sound just like danarch.

Maximus · 10-04-2007, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by digitalMedia

I've been with my wife for 19 years (and we waited 10 years before having kids

).

Now common, what's the point of being Mr and Mrs for a decade without being Mom and Dad??

Geshtinnanna · 10-04-2007, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Maximus

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Originally Posted by digitalMedia

I've been with my wife for 19 years (and we waited 10 years before having kids

).

Now common, what's the point of being Mr and Mrs for a decade without being Mom and Dad??

To enjoy some peace and quiet? Or perhaps to be ready for a child? Needing to gain a house not an apartment? Needing to make sure you have medical insurance and aren't working without benefits? You need to be prepared as a parent and not pop them out at 19 like a piece of toast.

romansh · 10-04-2007, 11:53 PM

Apparently I said to my wife that I would not marry her if she could not have children. I'm sorry that's what I could have easily said back then. A few years later it turns out we could not have kids..... interesting times.

So the last twenty five years of our marriage was pointless and without purpose?

all the best

danarch · 10-05-2007, 04:28 AM

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Originally Posted by romansh

Apparently I said to my wife that I would not marry her if she could not have children. I'm sorry that's what I could have easily said back then. A few years later it turns out we could not have kids..... interesting times.

So the last twenty five years of our marriage was pointless and without purpose?

all the best

dude, i have no idea what you mean in that statement. so what if you cant have kids. adopt. if you said "I will not marry you if you cant have children", i hope she slapped the sh*t out of you and left your life forever. i know ive stated before that i dont see the point of marrige, but i know it means different things to different people. your post simi-confuses me in its coherency.

digitalMedia · 10-05-2007, 08:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Geshtinnanna

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Originally Posted by Maximus

Now common, what's the point of being Mr and Mrs for a decade without being Mom and Dad??

To enjoy some peace and quiet? Or perhaps to be ready for a child? Needing to gain a house not an apartment? Needing to make sure you have medical insurance and aren't working without benefits? You need to be prepared as a parent and not pop them out at 19 like a piece of toast.

Yup! That's it exactly. We both wanted-needed that time to grow-up, work on our careers and enjoy the Saturday and Sunday mornings when we slept until 10. We take our roles as parents very seriously.

Personally, I think marriage/family is a natural instinct. I'm not saying marriage in religious or state-sanctioned contexts, but more the exclusivity of a couple and then a family.

**The An-Jel** · 10-07-2007, 02:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Geshtinnanna

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Originally Posted by Maximus

Now common, what's the point of being Mr and Mrs for a decade without being Mom and Dad??

To enjoy some peace and quiet? Or perhaps to be ready for a child? Needing to gain a house not an apartment? Needing to make sure you have medical insurance and aren't working without benefits? You need to be prepared as a parent and not pop them out at 19 like a piece of toast.

Yup! That's it exactly. We both wanted-needed that time to grow-up, work on our careers and enjoy the Saturday and Sunday mornings when we slept until 10. We take our roles as parents very seriously.

Personally, I think marriage/family is a natural instinct. I'm not saying marriage in religious or state-sanctioned contexts, but more the exclusivity of a couple and then a family.

It is instinct... it's a foundation of our basic perogatives. Nothing to hold up and triumph but to watch as an animal would. Or mourn when it doesn't exist.

Maximus · 10-07-2007, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Geshtinnanna

To enjoy some peace and quiet? Or perhaps to be ready for a child? Needing to gain a house not an apartment? Needing to make sure you have medical insurance and aren't working without benefits? You need to be prepared as a parent and not pop them out at 19 like a piece of toast.

Uh huh.....uh huh.....yes....uh huh.....and you can do all those things without getting married, so why get married before having kids? Why not do all those things, get ready, and then get married, have your honeymoon and have kids, you don't need marriage to buy a house, you don't need marriage to get you and your partner established.

Maximus · 10-07-2007, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by romansh

Apparently I said to my wife that I would not marry her if she could not have children. I'm sorry that's what I could have easily said back then. A few years later it turns out we could not have kids..... interesting times.

So the last twenty five years of our marriage was pointless and without purpose?

all the best

There's a 5 letter word that solves all your childless problems, you know what it is? ADOPT