I not sure about this.
I have more of a western view in this area I guess.
I see a flame in the other person and I want it to burn as bright as it can be. I would like it to be for them, of them. I have trouble seeing myself in others, so I use the idea that the flames are actually one so maybe my flame can be seen, although I don’t really care as long as the other flame shines bright. Here I lean more to the western philosophy, the east turns to far inward for me, almost selfish in nature, but that is just my opinion and has no barring on what others do, it is for them not me, as you already clearly see.
The closet thing to love I think I feel is when I hold my children in my arms, all my anxiety melts away, it was an amazing feeling the first time I felt it. At that very moment my life changed, it was no longer about me, myself was rinsed away in the waters of a child’s love.
I find it fascinating that some people need to turn selflessness back into themselves. The true crossing of the “line” is an outward flow with no expectation, or reason, for the reverse (or feedback). That is not to say that the body does not need some positive feed back (here meaning pleasure), that nation would be just wrong.
This is why I do not believe in transcendence of the body in the body’s life time, it needs some type of “motive” to drive it, either internal desires or external, self serving needs. Neither of witch do I mean only negative connotations. |