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Originally Posted by Cathy Jean Mockwitz  "Before we drown, or allow another individual to drown, in a muddy sea, of guilt and shame, we should always apply this mathematical formula, of judicious preservation, unto our own self, and unto others." |
sounds nice and all, but...
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1. With the knowledge that I had at the exact time that I made this specific mistake, or mistakes, would I, or could I have done anything differently?
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How is this going to make anyone feel better, thinking about the terrible thing he or she had to go through? Sure they might find out that there was nothing else they could do any better and find peace that way, but the possibilities are still there that s/he will blame themselves forever, for whatever happened. Forget about the past, live your life from where you are now, regret has no place, there isn't anything you can do about the past.
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2. Did I have an illness, of any type, that could have clouded my judgment, of the situation?
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You did what you thought was right, no one can ask more of you, no matter the illness.
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3. Could medication, or lack of medication or nutrients, have caused me to act in a manner, that I would not have acted, if I would have had complete control over my faculties?
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Even with a shattered spine you will always have full control of those things you do, if only you are able to move a hand, then you have full control of that hand. And if you don't have full control over yourself, then there is no one to blame, you did what you could. Stop regreting and wondering if there were things you could have done better.
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4. Was I truly free to act on my own behalf, in my own capacity, without any unjustified threat, duress, or coercion, from others, that effected my decisions?
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how should I know? I wasn't there. Stop beating yourself up, get on with life.
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I hope this is helpful,
Cathy Jean Mockwitz(Romanovae'***Da La Vinciente')
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Thinking like that isn't helpfull it only makes missery and pain worse.