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Originally Posted by Bjarki Dalsgarð 
I'm not really pessimistic about life, I just don't really value it that much, even though I know I should.
Yeah I'm bitter, but I do not seek revenge or anything, everything has been forgiven though definatly not forgotten, I feel that for those mofos out there the greatest punishment for them is the knowledge that they have been really bad at some point in life, so far there have been a couple of the who have cracked and just wept when they have been told what I think about them, and told them that I don't blame them or anything. And they know that they didn't deserve the forgiveness.
The greatest punishment is unwanted forgivness, it is not revenge though, and that is how I have come through this hell, knowing that they did get something they didn't want.
And of course I met someone who melted my heart, which did help something so fiercly.
I don't blame anyone really, kids are kids and will always be the same, we should just pay more attention to what they are doing, if your children come home from school upset one day, and don't want to talk about what is wrong. Make sure to get to the bottom of it straight away, no matter how much your kid is going to hate you for pressing on.
Victimization? We are all victims, some just more than others.
How do you NOT look for supporting evidence of Hell on earth?
Should I? I have proof of it.
I can move on cause I have found someone to trust.
The bitternes mainly steems from the fact that I know, there are others out there who go through the same stuff, and worse. So do me a favour, go to your kids have a nice and long talk with them about how to behave and ask them if something is wrong, cause I hate to know that it is possible that your(not yours in specific, your as in the entire forum here) kids are either on the receiving end or the dealing end of such things.
I have no expectations about life whatsover, it does not give you anything for free, so if you want anything you have to struggle on yourself.
This Bill Weise seems rather cheerfull for having experienced his version of hell, I don't know anything about him as I haven't heard about him before here so I can't really judge him. But it sounds wrong to me, that he's in a condition to go out right away and write a book about it, but it could be who is wrong about him.
Kids these days, *deap breath* for them is mercy a sign of weakness, who wants to be weak?
Did all that make sense? was it contradictionary or am I just not woken up yet? did I miss something?
Cheers
Just do whatever is in your power to save your kids from my version of hell, and from sending others to it, I do find it more likely than those 23 minutes that dude spent there.
"Behind the bright lights hide a multitude of horrors as would disgust and repel the most stout-hearted of men. So it is with determination and unflinching duty that we must face those vile and terrible things - for if not us, then who?"
- Anon (40K)
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Bjarki,
Sorry to hear about this. Though you seem to have moved on there are a couple of things I suggest for you to finally rid yourself of the memory of that negative stuff that happened. Here is an excerpt from a short book that came out recently that I highly recommend:
"Normally the brain converts our daily experiences into long-term memories. However, a traumatic experience can become "stuck" in the brain, unable to be stored as a non-emotional "memory" and persisiting in the brain as if it were a present-time emotional event. Thom Hartmann explains that when we walk, which engages both sides of the body, we activate both left and right sides of the brain. This allows the brains 2 hemispheres to join forces to break up brain patterning and allow the sufferer to release these distresses--from extreme but brief upsets to chronic conditions such as post traumatic stress disorder and drepression."
This is called "bilateral therapy". While the memory will remain, bilateral therapy takes the emotional charge out of the event. The guy who wrote the book did a 20 minute Eye-Movement Therapy (a bilateral therapy technique) with a vietnam vet who had felt that he was responsible for 2 choppers getting shot down and the deaths of those onboard and it healed him of the pain of that event.
That * deep breath * indicates that you most likely still have some of these things lingering with you. If you choose to go this route, the book says to start out with small distressing events before you move on to the big stuff so you get the hang of it. This book will help you let go of that stuff once and for all. Though I do recommend you buy the book instead of trying it on your own because there are specific instructions you need to follow. I tried it for stuff that I got over yet lingered (a "difficult" coworker that pissed me off a year ago) and and it worked. Good Luck!
The book is called "walking your blues away" by Thom Hartmann
My second suggestion is to go within and reconnect as often as possible to love that is at the core of your being.