 Keeping up appearances
Hi Tomo, nice to meet you. While I do not know your girlfriend or her family, I do have a lot of experience dealing with Christians and the whole scene. I went to a private Christian high school (on a scholarship, in what seems like a previous life) and, honestly, it was that experience that completely drove me away from any sort of organized religion altogether.
In my experience, Christians are more concerned with how they appear to others than they are concerned with the actual practice of being Christian. That being said, I would imagine you can make this relationship work if you just agree to go to church with her. People at their church are going to ask about you, and even though Jesus taught a message of acceptance and tolerance, they will be embarrassed to have to say that you are different. Keeping up the "perfect family" appearance is VERY important, and you seriously damage that in their eyes by not attending. If you really want it to work with this woman, nut up, go to church and stay quiet ... trust me, you won't be the only one there in your situation. 90% of the people there are saying one thing and doing another anyway.
Ah hypocrisy ... but I digress. I've seen the situation before, and her parents will appreciate the effort; it is your appearance that matters most. If her parents really are as devout as you described them, then you will probably be facing an ultimatum soon, so you may as well be pro-active.
I hope I haven't offended in any way, I don't know the particular people involved, so I can only speak honestly from my experience. I hope everything works out well for you.
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