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lisha32 · 11-13-2006, 02:56 PM

This is the topic the prevented my ex-boyfriend and I from continuing our relationship. (This only occurred last night, so i may be a bit emotional still.) I am almost 21 years old, and have struggled for the past four years with my beliefs. My parents raised me to believe in God while i was young, yet for whatever reasons religion disappeared in our lives after a series of hardships. I began college at 18, and was amazed at the amount of knowledge i had not yet been exposed to! Since then, I've done nothing but ponder almost everything i had ever been "taught" and just expose myself to different things. I finally decided that being agnostic made the most sense to me, and i'll tell you now, being accepted in this community, even in my own family, has not been easy.
Anyways, i remember as a child asking my mom so many questions like "where did we come from?" Interesting that out of all my childhood memories this is the most vivid, my mom was flabergasted, didnt know what to even say.....so anyways....i've thought hard about the topic lately. You may think i'm young to be thinking about how i want to raise my children, but it should be a very important part of everyone's plans. Why force anything upon a young child? I will simply explain to them when they ask that religion and their beliefs is something that they will figure out on their own. I will share with them what i feel and expose them to things that helped me at whatever age they bring it up. It's something that they will build themselves and i'll explain it to them in as clear and simple a way as i can. I dont know what this world is all about still, and i dont rule out the possibility that there is some higher power, but for me religions are nothing but stories to help people get through life. I dont feel i am a bad person for just accepting that i dont understand life and i dont think i will by the time i die. I have a long way to come myself...i know this....i am just entering my stage of figuring out my beliefs. It's just sad....becoming so close to a person and having this very topic become the reason a good relationship ends. My ex, who is fairly religious is a wonderful person, but when it comes to this topic we do nothing but butt heads. He can accept that i dont believe in God just yet and possibly never, but he just cant think about raising a child with me. well sorry this is so unorganized and random. just thought i'd throw some of this out there.

11-13-2006, 02:56 PM	#13 (permalink)
lisha32 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 3	This is the topic the prevented my ex-boyfriend and I from continuing our relationship. (This only occurred last night, so i may be a bit emotional still.) I am almost 21 years old, and have struggled for the past four years with my beliefs. My parents raised me to believe in God while i was young, yet for whatever reasons religion disappeared in our lives after a series of hardships. I began college at 18, and was amazed at the amount of knowledge i had not yet been exposed to! Since then, I've done nothing but ponder almost everything i had ever been "taught" and just expose myself to different things. I finally decided that being agnostic made the most sense to me, and i'll tell you now, being accepted in this community, even in my own family, has not been easy. Anyways, i remember as a child asking my mom so many questions like "where did we come from?" Interesting that out of all my childhood memories this is the most vivid, my mom was flabergasted, didnt know what to even say.....so anyways....i've thought hard about the topic lately. You may think i'm young to be thinking about how i want to raise my children, but it should be a very important part of everyone's plans. Why force anything upon a young child? I will simply explain to them when they ask that religion and their beliefs is something that they will figure out on their own. I will share with them what i feel and expose them to things that helped me at whatever age they bring it up. It's something that they will build themselves and i'll explain it to them in as clear and simple a way as i can. I dont know what this world is all about still, and i dont rule out the possibility that there is some higher power, but for me religions are nothing but stories to help people get through life. I dont feel i am a bad person for just accepting that i dont understand life and i dont think i will by the time i die. I have a long way to come myself...i know this....i am just entering my stage of figuring out my beliefs. It's just sad....becoming so close to a person and having this very topic become the reason a good relationship ends. My ex, who is fairly religious is a wonderful person, but when it comes to this topic we do nothing but butt heads. He can accept that i dont believe in God just yet and possibly never, but he just cant think about raising a child with me. well sorry this is so unorganized and random. just thought i'd throw some of this out there.